Don’t panic if university isn’t the best time of your life


Everybody tells you that University is going to be the best time of your life, and although I now see it as one of the most fun experiences I’ve ever had, that hasn’t always been the case. Ever since I can remember, probably from around the age of nine, I’ve wanted to go to university. Not entirely sure why, because back then I had no idea of the possibility of staying up until 4am with a housemate talking about your existential crisis, and if I’m honest, that is one of the best parts of the whole experience. I don’t know why I wanted it so badly, but I just knew that it was going to be great.

When the time came for me to go to university, my expectations were at an unreal high. I had this idea that my flat would be my best friends, that we’d just click. That wasn’t the case. My flat weren’t bad people, they were actually really lovely, we were just very different. I think what I wanted from university was a sense of community, a secure group that I could go out with and rely on, but in my experience, there was no interest to do things as a flat, and we did not go out together once.

The first week of university was one of the worst weeks of my life. I don’t think I’ve ever felt that lonely. There was a point where I wanted to transfer to a different university because I hated it that much. Despite all of this, there was a glimmer of hope (cliché, yes, I know). On the second night my flat had again made no indication of wanting to go out. There was an event happening in the Students’ Union, and I decided to go alone. This was completely out of character for me, I still can’t believe I did it. I met a guy in the queue for the event, and a year later we’re celebrating our one year anniversary. Through him, I eventually made friends, one of which has become a very close friend of mine.

When my course started, I made even more friends. Through your course you will get the chance to meet like-minded people, so you still have time to form new friendships, in case fresher’s week doesn’t go your way. Joining a society is also a great way to make new friends, as like on your course, those people are interested in something that you also like. Even if it means getting out of your comfort zone, do it! That night when I went to the Students’ Union by myself, I couldn’t think of anything worse than going alone, but I’m so glad that I did. My university experience would have been completely different if I hadn’t gone.

I think the point I want to make by writing this article is that if university isn’t the best time of your life, don’t worry. It will get better. Give it time, and if you find out it’s just not for you, that’s also fine. I know it’s tough to see all the Instagram posts about how much everyone loves their flatmates and the fun they’re having together, nonetheless you will eventually meet people who are just as special to you.

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