Recently, I’ve been trying to really think about what I’m saying before it comes out of my mouth. I’ve always been about girl power, but if I saw someone walking down the street in a super over-the-top and extravagant outfit I’d probably turn to my friend and say, “Did you see that outfit?!” Surely we can all admit to something of the sort?
Recently, I started becoming more aware with all the mental health and anti-bullying campaigns. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’ve never been a bully, but I think every girl can hold their hands up and say they’ve made a comment about another girl at some point in their lives.
It really hit home while I was watching reality TV show “The Only Way is Essex.” One girl made nasty comments to another for no apparent reason and it really angered me. Why should she be allowed to say these things? The other girls on the show just sat and laughed and encouraged the behaviour. It got to the point where I wanted to email ITV to complain about the blatant bullying, but the problem was resolved on the show so I thought I’d write this article instead. I wanted to write to them as they’ve just released a campaign in aid of mental health named ‘every mind matters.’ It seems people pick and choose whose ‘mind matters.’
Clearly, ITV thinks ‘every mind matters’ doesn’t apply to the girl being mocked on The Only Way is Essex. I’ve learnt that people can be really hypocritical when it comes to being kind; people will be kind to people when it suits them or when they’re on their high horse about mental health. But an off-the-cuff comment towards someone can be just as damaging as full-on bullying, even if people are unaware of it.
Next time you’re about to make a petty comment about somebody, stop and think: ‘is this person affecting my life?’ If the answer is no, don’t say it. You’re not going to gain anything from saying it.